“He had a rough day.”  “She bit three kids.”  “He spent lunch in the office again.” 

Sound familiar?

If so, let me guess… you’re a parent or guardian, educator or school personnel, family member, babysitter, or possibly a friend of a family who has a child known to test the waters? 

Am I right?? 

If so, you’re in the right spot!  This blog was developed specifically with YOU in mind in the hopes of eliminating some of the stress, some of the worry, and some of the work! 

Sound good?

If so, keep reading to find out more details!

WHO I AM…

Hello… My name is Hollis Arnold.  I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (LCDC) practicing around Corpus Christi, Texas for the past 10 years.  I’ve dabbled in various inpatient and outpatient settings; Only recently did I decide to take the plunge and go into private practice.

Although each step has led me to exactly where I am today, I found, what I refer to as, “my true calling” approximately 7 years ago.  I spent the past 7 years working with school-aged children, their families, and their teachers.  Working alongside these individuals to make a difference in children’s lives was a rewarding and humbling experience.

MY PASSION…

Saying I love what I do doesn’t seem to do justice to how I truly feel about my career path. I feel completely privileged to have been given the opportunity to do what I do every day.

My real passion is working with children and their families.  When I say children AND their families, I mean just that; I work with children AND their families, including parents, guardians, grandparents, aunts, uncles… oh, and teachers; I’ve worked with numerous teachers struggling with challenging behaviors in their classrooms.  If I’m working with a child with a challenging behavior(s) such as anger, aggression, anxiety, inattention, or hyperactivity, it only makes sense (in my mind, at least) to work with the individuals who have direct impact on that child’s life.

I have talked to and supported so many parents and teachers on their breaking point, tearing up, feeling helpless, wanting to throw in the towel… haven’t we all been there? 

I know I have.  I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been hit, kicked, spit on, and cursed at.  Yes, these actions were committed by children, not adults!

You know Russell Barkley’s quote “The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving ways.”?  Man, do I agree; although, my patience, my sanity, and my strength have been tested repeatedly over the years, I continue to go to work each day in the hopes of touching others’ lives for the better.  What I’ve found is that, at one point or another, we ALL need some sort of support, whether it be a shoulder to cry on, ears to vent to, or arms to hold us.

MY PROBLEM…

Over the years, I’ve become increasingly aware of an issue that has continued to strike a nerve; not in an angry way but in a “What can I do about this?” kind of way.

What I’ve found over the years, is that, at times, it’s not that people don’t want to help children with challenging behaviors, it’s that they lack the information to completely do so. 

Hear me out…

What I’ve found, more often than I’d like to admit, is that the people directly impacting the lives of children struggling with behavioral and/or mental health issues don’t completely understand the issues; therefore, can’t completely help the child.  Although, I love it when a parent comes in using verbiage such as IEP, developmental delay, and psychological testing (you know they’ve done their homework), more often than not, I’m explaining the meaning of those terms rather than having a discussion on next steps.

On the other hand, although teachers have the knowledge, they may not necessarily know the meaning or how to best manage the behaviors… and for good reason, they have an Education Degree, not Counseling or Psychology. 

How much training do you think teachers receive on Mental Health issues?

I’d say very little, if any!  If anyone knows otherwise please comment below.  I’d love some insight on just how schools help to prepare general ed. teachers for these behaviors.

I believe to truly make a difference in a child’s life, we have to truly understand the child and until we do that… well, we’re in and out of a revolving door.  That’s what I loved most about my last position.  I was able to work alongside each individual involved in that child’s life; each of us, experts in our own fields, working together to best help that child reach his/her own true potential.

MY PURPOSE…

Having said that, I figured I’d try more of a proactive approach rather than playing the blame game or pointing fingers; hence, the Blog!! 

What do people do when they want to learn more about a certain topic? 

Search the internet, of course… or is that only me?!  Maybe so, but I’ll go out on a limb and say that a good amount of people do the same!

First things first… My blog is NOT a column on parenting or teaching advice.  I am not going to tell you how to parent your child or teach your children; you’re the experts in those fields, not me.  I am, however, going to provide you with information that will hopefully HELP you parent your children and help you to be more able to teach those challenging children!

I want to provide information on hot topics and need to know information; the below list giving you a glimpse of what’s to come:

  • Grief: Children Experience it Too
  • Red flags of Autism
  • ADHD: Does My Child Have It?
  • Resources for Parents of Challenging Children

Interested yet?

I want to provide information that not only parents and teachers can benefit from but family members, babysitters, and day care workers, as well; pretty much anyone that comes in contact with children.

I understand how difficult it can be to ask for help or ask questions, especially about your own child.  In knowing this, I’ve decided to completely eliminate the need for questions and provide you with information you can use. 

I’m open to questions so feel free to ask away or PM me if you’d like to be more discreet. 

I hope those of you searching for answers will find some of what you’re looking for in my posts… If not, feel free to share ideas for future topics. Last but not least, the information I will be sharing in my posts is just that…information.  Be sure to seek the help of a professional if you’re in need of further information.  Be on the lookout for my next post!

What challenges are you currently facing with children?

5 Comments

  • The blame game only keeps a person in a helpless position. Proactive is the way to go and thank you for stating that clearly. Education is something we al can use more of in how to relate to people, kids, teens, loved ones.

    Hollis – I look forward to more good stuff on your blog.

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    • Hi Brenda! I love that… “The blame game only keeps a person in a helpless position! I am definitely going to remember that one. Thank you for adding insight to the topic!

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  • I like the physical appearance of the layout of copy. It is easy to read. More images will give diversity of stimulus. I am working on these items in my blogs. I think they are good ideas.
    Topic idea:
    Parents are often perfectionistic and preaching to kids about the errors in their efforts. I think this tactic is discouraging and defeats a child, creates the “dobber down” syndrome. A positive view of the next step or effort will have a much better effect.

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    • Hi Fred… thank you for the input. Yes, I agree and plan to work on that in future posts!

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